Bill Cosby is famous and he’s also rich. With wealth and fame comes respect. But one thing that should be remembered is that you shouldn’t automatically assume that someone is beyond reproach because they are on television or have a lot of money. Quite a few people make this mistake.
For the longest time, women have been coming out of Bill Cosby’s past to claim that he is not quite the always-ethical man that the public has believed him to be. This doesn’t take away the good things he’s done for the world, but it does seem to say that his wife Camille has had to overlook a few of his worldly desires in order to help their marriage last for as long as it has.
According to Clutch Magazine, Gawker and a slew of other online media publications, the walls are crumbling down on Cosby’s seemingly impenetrable public persona. There are some things that money can’t buy, and it looks like there are some women with demons from the past who are no longer interested in remaining silent about what allegedly happened to them. Clutch magazine goes as far as saying that ” 13 women came forward alleging that Cosby drugged and sexually abused them.” The allegations against Cosby are quite disturbing, to say the least.
They mention the story of Tamara Green who spoke with Newsweek and testified in the suit brought against Cosby by Andrea Constand, who settled out of court back in 2006. Tamara claims that Cosby invited her over and gave her two pills that she believed were an over-the-counter drug. She says that within 30 minutes, she was “face down in her soup.” She says that he offered to undress her and take her to bed.
And then, because I was so ill, he volunteered to undress me and put me to bed. I started fighting him — I took a lamp and broke a window. He finally left. When I woke up, I saw that he left two 100-dollar bills on the table next to my front door. I was so sincerely and deeply infuriated that, even through the drugs…. I was crazed. I wanted to rip his neck off.
The next day, I went to go visit my brother, who was in the terminal ward at a children’s hospital. Cosby, smart man that he is, had been to the hospital to give presents to the kids. By the time I got to the hospital, my brother was glowing that the great Bill Cosby had given him a portable radio.
Another woman, 46-year old Barbara Bowman, says that Cosby “mentored her” in the 1980s during her teen years. She also says that he abused her physically and emotionally. She says that Cosby used his power and influence to get her to allow him to do things that a grown, married man should never be doing to a woman at the tender age of 18. The first alleged incident she described occurred in a hotel in Denver. She also says that the incidents occurred repeatedly, to the point that he would warn her of what was going to happen well in advance:
Then, he told me to sit in a chair, close my eyes, and act out a monologue as if I was really intoxicated. And he was touching my neck and stroking my hair.
I felt absolutely terrified. I was so new to the business and this was my first experience with a celebrity of such power, so I thought, “Wow, maybe this is what you are supposed to do. This is about learning how to be vulnerable in a scene, and if anyone would know best, it would be Bill Cosby.” I didn’t want to disappoint him or for him to think I couldn’t follow directions. So I gave it my all.
Once in Reno, Nevada, he flew me out for a celebrity ski classic. He got me in a hotel room and fed me a lot of alcohol. He pinned me down in his suite on the couch, and he had me masturbate him. He really intimidated me, and I panicked.
From them on, I would be praying and begging to God that it was in my imagination, it didn’t happen. I’d sit on the plane and say “Please God, please God, this is really about my career–I’m lucky.” And then I’d get there and he would just intimidate me and make me so scared…
The first time I was drugged for sure was in New York, when he invited me to dinner at his apartment. There was a chef, a butler; we had dinner, it was all fine. I had one glass of wine and then I blacked out. I woke up throwing up in the toilet, and he was standing over me, pulling my hair out of my face. I was wearing a white t-shirt that wasn’t mine, and he was in a white robe.
I think the final time I was assaulted by him was in Atlantic City. He took me there for a show and got me very drunk. Later, [the hotel] lost my luggage, so I was on the phone with the concierge and [Bill] had an absolute fit that I was on the phone, and went ballistic. The next morning, he summoned me into his room and started berating me and calling me names and yelling at me, telling me I had embarrassed him, and he threw me on the bed and blocked me with his elbow and got on top of me and started taking his pants off and I was screaming and crying and begging him to leave me alone and I fought so hard and I was screaming so loud that he got mad and threw me aside and got away from me, and that was it.
I was ditched. I was dropped like a hot potato by my agent. I was thrown out of my housing. They pulled the plug on me and said I had embarrassed [Cosby].
Cosby said “I better never ever hear your name or see your face ever again.”
While no one knows exactly what happened, these allegations are at least worth additional investigation. It appears that Mr. Cosby may have some explaining to do, even if he doesn’t believe he has to do it. Having so many women come out all at the same time not only damages his brand across the world, it may also open he and his family up to significant financial liability.
Financial Lovemaking lessons from this story:
1) Never assume that power doesn’t corrupt, it truly can. Even if Cosby didn’t do the things that these women are saying he did, there are famous and wealthy celebrities who use their power to influence and manipulate young people to get what they want.
2) Never allow a person’s wealth and influence to lead you to believe that they are automatically a good and ethical person. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. But celebrities tend to get the benefit of the doubt, because people are intoxicated by being near them. So, when they are accused of wrong-doing, people somehow believe that they are incapable of doing things that would be quite plausible for a regular person without millions of dollars in the bank. Thousands of women could come forward and tell unseemly stories about Bill Cosby and there would still be people who defend him because he’s got a lot of money. That’s the American way.