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Financial Lovemaking: 4 scary, deep facts about divorce

Financial Lovemaking: 4 scary, deep facts about divorce

By Dr. D. Ivan Young

Here are 4 Shocking Facts About Break Ups and Divorce.  In every state in the U.S, problems in, and outside, of marriage are causing couples to either breakup, or get divorced for less of a reason. In fact, in Oklahoma, the state with the highest overall divorce rate at 13.45%, just under a third of all adults who have been married have gotten a divorce. I’m not picking on the state of Oklahoma, because all of us, have, or are still contributing to that number. We’re doing so without considering the dire consequences that such is having on us as well as our children.

Broken families create broken neighborhoods. Broken neighborhoods create jacked up communities. Jacked up communities are the reason that our society is messed up as a whole. Let’s stop the madness. Couples who seek qualified coaching do two things. Either the avoid getting into a dysfunctional relationship, or prevent a good relationship from becoming dysfunctional. So, doesn’t it make sense to seek professional help before you start picking china patterns and cohabitating. Use some common sense, seek out a couples therapist, or relationship coach who can provide some insight and give sound advice about how to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Don’t become a statistic.  Don’t be one of those couples who either waits until there’s too much water under the bridge fix things, or be one of the one’s that just have to much ego take advantage of marriage counseling.

Let’s face it, isn’t it stupid to spend a small fortune on a ring, wedding and even a honeymoon, but fail to invest in creating a solid foundation for your future family. Do it yourself couples therapy, and ill fated advice from some equally jacked up friends and family members, only to make an already horrendous situation worse.

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Financial Lovemaking lessons from this story:

1) How you plan your family is critical to your ability to build wealth.  Sloppy, ill-conceived, poorly-executed marriages will drain your bank account as much as an uninsured illness.  Also, having a lot of children out of wedlock will drain your resources as well.  Choose your partner wisely, and once you choose, do what you need to do to stick with your commitment.

2) Having unhappy, poorly-adjusted children are another deterrant to building wealth.  It’s hard to plan for retirement when you have angry, self-destructive kids who keep getting into all kinds of messes because they aren’t right mentally.  In that case, your children are liabilities for you rather than assets because your personal decisions may have disrupted their ability to have a normal, stable childhood.

3) Divorce is now a growing and powerful industry.  Attorneys in this field are collectively pocketing billions of dollars as they sit and wait for you to make major life decisions without thinking them through.   There is always someone sitting there waiting to profit by picking up the pieces of your relationship after it has burned to the ground.  Don’t give these people your money….invest in a relationship guidebook instead.

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