The wedding between Real Housewife Kandi Burruss and her love-to-be, Todd Tucker was not a simple process. Kandi’s mother, Mama Joyce, has been consistently concerned with Todd wanting Kandi’s money. She doesn’t feel that he is an adequate spouse for her daughter and seems to feel that protecting her financial assets is more important than anything that could make them actually want to spend their lives with each other.
According to E! Online, the recent wedding between the two didn’t go off without a bit of drama. They are reporting that a big fight ensued at the wedding over whether or not Todd would sign a strict prenuptial agreement protecting Kandi’s assets in the event of a divorce.
“Kandi married Todd Tucker this past weekend and [her mom] Joyce was not happy about it,” a source told E!. “Joyce and Kandi got into a fight just before the wedding. Joyce is upset that Todd would not agree to sign the prenup. The couple got married without one, which led Joyce to believe her suspicions all along: he just wants Kandi for her money.”
The wedding occurred on April 4th, with fellow Real Housewives cast member Phaedra Parks serving as a bridesmaid. Even the singer Fantasia Barrino was part of the ceremony.
“Kandi’s dress was made out of Ostrich Feathers and the entire event space was covered in white lace,” the source says. “Not one part of the space was without lace…There were white lions as you walked in. Porsha [Williams], Shareè Whitfield, Tamar Braxton,Sherri Shepherd and Monica were some of the guests. Guests dined on shrimp, steak, stuffed crab, cupcakes and the couple had an open bar.”
It’s still not entirely clear whether Todd signed the prenup or not, but what has been communicated is that he wasn’t happy about it. This leads one to wonder if love can ever outweigh money or if gender has anything to do with how Kandi’s mother is looking at the situation.
“I got a little pissed at the bridegroom the night before this wedding. He kind of held up on signing the prenup and didn’t come to the rehearsal dinner because he didn’t want to sign it,” Mama Joyce told TooFab.
“His mom said she didn’t see no reason for him to have to sign because they were in love. He was the one who didn’t have a damn thing, but that’s another story,” she complained. “But from what I understand, he did sign.”
Financial Lovemaking lessons from this story:
1) Your mother shouldn’t be in control of your relationship. Allowing an outside party to control your personal choices is a quick path toward misery. Mama Joyce is clearly obsessed with protecting Kandi’s wealth, which is important. But she is likely unable to appreciate all the reasons why their love might actually matter more than money.
2) Gender roles appear to be on display in the manner by which Kandi’s mother is trying to protect her daughter’s money. Men regularly marry women without prenuptial agreements and in some cases, the lack of a prenup is used as a way for the man to express his love and trust of the woman he is set to marry. But for some reason, many of us think that these rules shouldn’t apply when a woman’s money is being protected. Supporting your spouse is a universal ideal that may not have to be gender-specific.