by April V. Taylor
There is yet another blow dealt in the divorce battle unfolding between Sherri Shepherd and her estranged husband Lamar Sally. Sally has rejected a deal offered by Shepherd for him to receive a one time payment of $100,000 as part of a divorce settlement in addition to $3,000 a month in child support for the surrogate child the two agreed to have. The child has been a source of contention and was not even mentioned in Shepherd’s original divorce papers. The child is biologically Sally’s but does not have any biological link to Shepherd.
The couple signed a prenuptial agreement during August 2011 that included a clause stating that in the event the couple divorced, Sally would receive a one-time spousal support payment of $60,000. The portion of the agreement covering children has not been made public due to laws protecting the privacy of minors, however sources have reported that the agreement did not require Shepherd to pay child support.
Since the couple’s split, Sally has challenged the validity of the agreement, claiming that it was based on fraud.
Financial Lovemaking lessons from this story:
1) When you get married as the higher-earning partner in a relationship, you must accept the fact that you’ve now become part of your partner’s portfolio. Marriage can be a lifetime commitment, even if you are divorced. So, don’t expect that you can easily walk away from that commitment without a fight or the expectation that you’ll help provide for the other party for many years afterward. This story is only strange because the genders are switched.
2) An even greater commitment than the one you make to your partner is the one that is made to children. Sherri’s claim that she was “tricked” into agreeing to have a child is similar to remarks made by thousands of wealthy men who felt that a woman got pregnant in order to get access to his money. Without regard to whether or not Sherri was tricked, you should never underestimate the depth to which people will go to protect their economic livelihood.
Below is an old interview in which Dr Boyce Watkins and Sherri Shepherd talk about her son and his disability.