You may not know the name Jessica Bartholomew. But Jessica is the woman whom Sherri Shepherd hired to have a baby for her. When Shepherd was married to ex-husband Lamar Sally, the two decided to make a contract with the woman to get her to carry and deliver a child for the couple.
But according to Bartholomew, Shepherd is about as absent of a mother as anyone could imagine. She says that Shepherd has not been engaged at all in the life of Lamar Jr. since the day the little baby was born.
“I just don’t understand how she can act like this baby is nonexistent. It just blows my mind,” Bartholomew said on Inside Edition Thursday.
The baby was born on August 5 and used another woman’s egg, with Sally’s seed. The couple got the 32-year old woman to carry the child, and everything was fine until the divorce.
“She would call up and check on me during the pregnancy in the beginning. At the 20-week appointment, she seemed very excited. She was going to see the baby for the first time… I didn’t see any warning signs right away,” Jessica said.
Jessica even says that she was never told that the couple would abandon the agreement. Shepherd claims that she was tricked into having the baby by Sally in order to take her to child support court. Jessica says that since the couple has stopped covering expenses for the baby, she has to pay them herself.
“I am now listed as a noncustodial parent in California. I have a child support case coming against me now,” she said.
Sally has full custody of Lamar Jr, but apparently, the courts aren’t paying much attention to that right now. The case against Jessica began when Sally applied for Medi-Cal, a medical assistance program for low-income families. It’s odd that he would do so given that his ex-wife earned millions as a regular host on “The View,” one of the hottest shows on daytime television.
“I am angry with Sherri because she never once contacted me to tell me what was happening. It was kind of like I was left out in the cold,” Jessica said.
You can see her interview below.
Financial Lovemaking lessons from this story (from Dr Boyce Watkins):
1) A child is a lifetime commitment, even if your relationship is not. Once you create a human life, understand that this is your financial and emotional responsibility until one of you is no longer on the planet. When you don’t uphold your responsibilities, someone else has to do it for you.
2) The idea of being “tricked” into having a child is something that many people (typically men) have complained about for thousands of years. But the fact is that no one can “trick” you into creating a human life. We all make decisions that we regret, but there is usually a price to pay for them. Being “tricked” in love is not an excuse for not following through on your financial commitments. This fact doesn’t change if you’re male or female.
3) Before entering into serious long-term contracts, emotional or otherwise, don’t take them lightly. Things change, incentives change, and you would do well to map out every contingency to ensure that you’re not going to be left holding the bag if things go south. It sounds like Jessica may not have done her due diligence in the midst of all of the excitement of carrying a baby for a celebrity couple. Celebs will lie to you too, and many of them are not as well off financially as you might think.