By: Stephanie Allen-Gobert
Women’s liberation is everywhere. Recently, President Obama signed a bill given equal rights and pay to working mothers and women. The role of women/mothers has always been to raise and take care of the children in the home. Some circumstances require the children to be raised by the father. Should mothers be required to pay child support to their child’s father if the roles are reversed?
In an article written by Brooke Dean of MadameNoire.com, she says according to the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement, only 5% of mothers pay child support compared to 85% of fathers. Also, it’s been reported that in some cases, even if the father is the custodial parent, he may STILL be ordered to pay child support to the mother if he earns more money than she does-but not the reverse.
So why are we quick to label a man as a deadbeat dad if he doesn’t pay child support, but not the mother who shirks her financial responsibilities?
In a perfect world, both parents would be able to work together-outside of the court system- to come in agreement as it pertains to supporting the child/children emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically…and yes, financially. Unfortunately, there seems to be a double standard where child support is concerned, and some men get the short end of the stick. But there are some women who say that it is a father’s job to take care of his children and that a mother shouldn’t have to pay him to take care of their children.
Financial Lovemaking lessons from this story from Dr Boyce Watkins:
1) It is a good financial strategy to invest in keeping a healthy marriage. You also want to do some research to choose a good partner that you can raise children with. Divorce is costly, so either choosing a bad partner or becoming a bad partner can ruin your financial future.
2) Child support courts aren’t interested in keeping families together. Remember that when you either make babies, get married or choose to get divorced. Also, divorce court has become a multi-billion dollar industry designed to milk consumers for as much money as they can get. Be thoughtful about your life management policies, for this can be just as important as financial management.